A few years ago, I fell and hit my knees on the sidewalk so I went to my newish primary care doctor. I explained the new injury and how it seemed to have aggravated an old injury. And this doctor with a flourishing practice, loads of medical education, et cetera and so forth said to me, "all women your age have bad knees. You just need to lose some weight."
There's a good chance that you've put off going to the doctor because you worried they would harp on your weight. Since many illnesses are a lot more treatable when you find them early enough, please stop doing that. I don't take any nonsense from doctors anymore and neither should you.
Doctors Have Preconceptions
Your doctor makes diagnoses based on past experience. If you come in with flu-like symptoms during flu season, they're gonna give you flu medication. The problem is that not everything in your doctor's brain is based on reality, so they can jump to conclusions.
That doctor who brushed off my knee injury? Apparently he thought that all women in their mid 30s have bad knees (including the thin ones) and that the solution is losing weight because....I got nothing.
This means that doctors aren't perfect and you don't have to accept everything they say.
Finding Non-Fat Phobic Doctors
Ask your plus size friends and colleagues for recommendations. Also, if your insurance allows it, go straight to a specialist. When I took my injured knees to an orthopedist, it was a completely different experience - x-rays, physical therapy, sympathy - the whole megillah.
Prepare For Battle
Not that you should walk into a doctor's office looking for a fight, but plan to counter any unhelpful nonsense. I encourage you to learn everything you can about Health At Every Size. The phrases I rely on include:
- BMI is not a reliable indicator of health, and was not intended to be.
- Mental health is also health and harping on my weight is bad for my mental health.
- If I exercise and eat right (for me), then I've succeeded regardless of how that affects my weight.
- How would you approach this in a thin patient with the same symptoms?
If a doctor refuses to order tests because they think your weight is to blame for your symptoms (and your previous research says that may not be the case), then ask them to document in your chart that they refused to order a test you requested. That usually makes them come around.
I dress for doctor's appointments as if they were job interviews. When you dress to look smart, people tend not to talk down to you.
But you also need to dress comfortably so you can get up on the examination table. Vikki Vi Classics like Pull-On Pants and Sleeveless Shells are great for this. Wrap skirts and knee-high boots? Not so much.
Have A Gown Plan
In the past few years, doctors have moved away from making you change into a paper gown at every visit. But sometimes you do need to take it all off. If you're not sure the office has plus size gowns, bring along a lightweight robe and wear that instead. I felt silly the first time I did this, but I discovered that it's really empowering. It reminds me and my doctors that I know more about my health than they do, so we need to work as a team.
You're The Boss
I like to establish the dynamic that I'm an expert in my health and the doctor is an expert consultant. Chances are that you're the only person in contact with all your doctors, so no one knows more about your health than you.