As a plus size woman, I've given up putting a napkin on my lap. If I drip or spill anything, it's not going to make it that far. My chest catches everything. At home, I'll wear an apron and at restaurants I'll keep my napkin on the table so I can daintily dab the corners of my mouth while I lean over my plate - or I'll tuck it into my collar hobo-style. Despite all this, I still get stains front and center and I've developed some excellent stain removal skills.