I'm a firm believer in the power of not hating your own reflection. It frees up so much energy that it's truly transformative. But how do you get there? I can tell you all the reasons why there's nothing wrong with your body and you might still ignore me. You've got this idea in your head that there's something wrong with you and no one is going to tell you otherwise. Or maybe you just have too much on your plate to work on your self image. Or maybe you just don't know where to start.
Dress For Your Body Shape
The vast majority of women aren't hourglass shaped. But that's considered the ideal, which means the rest of us beat ourselves up for not being hourglasses. Because...society.
We've gone over this before. You may be pear shaped, apple shaped, and so on. Or you may be a combination. The point is that not every style is for your body. Pay very close attention to how I worded that. I didn't say that you're not able to wear every style, or that you can't pull of certain styles. Some styles aren't made with your body in mind. That's all.
It's not that you're not good enough for sheath dresses (or whatever). It's just that the person who invented the sheath dress wasn't thinking of you when they did it. Think of it like dating - it's about finding the right fit. If you're really into line dancing, you're not a good match for someone who loathes country music. It isn't that you're not good enough for that person - you're just not a good match.
It's a lot easier to make peace with your body when your clothes aren't making you miserable.
Make Friends With Your Mirror
This is dorky and lame, and super effective. I really hate how much affirmations have helped me. It's undignified. Do it anyway. Dignity is overrated.
Every time you pass a mirror, look at yourself and say, "I love you." I'm still too embarrassed to say this out loud in the privacy of my own home, but saying it in my head helped my outlook after only a few weeks. You may need to tape notes to every mirror in your house so you don't forget, but that's OK. While you're at it, tape up some affirmations. I know, I know. Think of them as reminders.
My favorite is, "Everyone makes mistakes, so why not you?" as sung by the great and wise Big Bird. You wouldn't beat someone else up for not having a size 6 hourglass shaped body, so why are giving yourself a hard time over it?
Make Friends With Yourself
Being OK with your body isn't going to fix your entire life. But it's a start. Your body issues may be at the root of everything else, or they could be the result of all your baggage. Lucky for us, there's therapy and self help books. Dressing for your shape will make you look better, but being at peace with yourself can make you look downright amazing.